In Your Face, Does it work?

There is an old adage, that the squeaky wheel gets the grease, and many think it applies to becoming accepted, in society, when one is different than the majority. They believe that an ‘in your face’ attitude is going to make them get their objective, quicker, but you know, I rather doubt it.

Now there is no doubt, that Gay Rights did evolve from a riot. Not nice to think of, but then the USA evolved from a Revolution, so at times, it does seem that violence is the only recourse left to people. But should it still be that way today, in 2009?

Does having extreme sex out in the open, make it more acceptable, or does it only galvanize the opposition? Like the fight for same sex marriage, somehow got twisted into some sinister plot to turn God Fearing Kids into Queers, which just, doesn’t make sense to me. And I wonder, is it the ‘in your face’ attitude that has made that fear seem real, to many heterosexuals?

I am all for celebrating who I am. I have no qualms about being out, and yet at times, there is a sort of hesitancy, that shouldn’t be. I mean, even here in what I consider a far more liberal country than the USA, there is that lingering doubt, that wonder if it is ‘safe’ to make it known.

For example, was watching ‘Hells Kitchen’ and the gay guy got booted out first, and I wonder, was it because he outed himself at the beginning, or was it really because he was the worst of the two put up for elimination? See, those are the kind of doubts one has, because frankly, what did being gay have to do with trying to become a world class Chef?

Also I rather think that it is sad, that in 2009 we still have to wonder, was a decision based on the merits, or on the sexual orientation of someone? Just seems to me, that we should be striving for more dialogue among those who are different, instead of shouting matches, pushing matches, and mud slinging, but then, maybe I am just tilting at windmills.

I am all for Pride, but sometimes I wonder if we aren’t driven to self destruction. Perhaps it is time to let go of the anger.